(Don't) Stay In Your Lane

People don’t like it when you change lanes.

A career pivot.
A relationship shift.
Stepping away from a vice others still enjoy.

(Heaven forbid you change political parties, sports teams, or faith communities.)

Suddenly, people are uncomfortable.
Not because you’re wrong—but because you’re new.
And new requires them to adjust.

You see, we built a story around who you were.
It made sense.
It fit our world.
And, now you’ve gone off script.

But the truth is this:
Who you were isn’t going to get you where you’re going next.
Staying in your lane might keep us comfortable—but it keeps you stuck.

Even your own brain will try to pull you back.
Back to the familiar.
Back to the rewards that came with playing your old part.
Back to the version of you you long ago outgrew.

It turns out change comes with friction.
It always has.
But friction isn’t a sign to stop—it’s a sign you’re moving.

People won’t like it when you change lanes.
And that’s okay.
They don’t have to.

Let them honk.
Let them unfollow.
Let them misunderstand.

There are 8 billion people on this planet.
There’s a tribe for the you you’re becoming.
A tribe for the work you’re meant to do next.

Because you can’t build what’s next on the laurels of what used to be.