What We're Really Looking For

A mentor once told me:
We live in a society without elders.
Not without older people.
Without elders.

There’s a difference.

Age doesn’t make you wise.
And experience doesn’t make you worth following.

Wisdom comes from walking through fire–
And letting it refine you, not harden you.

We used to have more of these people.

It was the neighbor who’d been through hell and still showed up with kindness.
The mentor whose life did most of the talking.
The faith leader, coach, or teacher whose steadiness made everything feel possible.

But those voices are quieter now. The tribe has scattered. The porch is empty.
The institutions that once held us together?
Thinner than they used to be.

So where do people turn?
Well, these days, there’s no shortage of voices. Smart. Curious. Compelling.

In my view, a whole tribe of bro-casters has risen to fill the void left by real eldership. And honestly? It’s not all noise. Some have helped a generation name what they’ve always felt but never had words for. And that matters.

But the kind of wisdom we ache for–
The kind that slows your pulse just by being in the room.
That kind of wisdom doesn’t come from content.
It comes from character.

And so, many have turned to Coaching.

Life coaching.
Performance coaching.
Leadership coaching.
(And on and on–executive, career, finance, health, etc).

Coaching is everywhere now.
And not just because it’s trendy.

Now, I’m not saying coaches are elders. They’re not.
But coaching has grown in the absence of wisdom.

I see it often.

Head coaches are calling in retired legends to walk with them.
Young CEOs are paying dearly for a two-time founder to take their calls and sit on their boards.
Early-stage entrepreneurs?
They just want someone to help them see clearly–and stay the course.

Coaching is growing because we’re all still longing.
For perspective.
For presence.
For a steady voice that says:

“You’re not crazy. You’re not behind. Keep going.”

And you want the same.

You want to live a life that matters.
To have a little more clarity.
A bit more courage.
You just don’t always know where to begin.

This is why I do what I do. 

Not to give answers.
But to help you see what’s possible.

The best coaches help people:
Get clear–on who they are and what they want.
Stay true–to what matters most.
Find joy–in alignment, not just achievement.
And to take courage–when the moment demands it, because it always does.

Coaching, at its best, isn’t about performance.
It’s about presence.
It’s about building a life with integrity.
From the inside out.

Not a replacement for elders.
But maybe a way of guiding you to become one.

Anyway, this is the work. And my vision for it.
Not to fix you, but to walk with you–
As you become the person you were meant to be.