I went to the beach last week.
No to-do list.
Slept in.
Swam for hours.
Played with my kids.
Read fiction.

Now I’m back, and I think it might’ve been the most important week for my business all year.

Rest isn't a break from the work.
Sometimes, it IS the work.

Kishore Indukuri left his job at Intel to start what would become Sid’s Farm–a subscription-based dairy company now delivering pure milk and dairy products to over 30,000 families across India every day.

The thing is, when he left Intel, he wasn’t chasing revenue, scale, or massive distribution. Not yet.
He was chasing purpose.

So, he quit.
Bought 20 cows.
And started delivering milk himself.

When your purpose isn’t clear, you look to escape.
When it IS clear, you look to engage.

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Quick Inve...

It’s simpler to say what you’re against.
(And the quickest way to form a group.)

It’s harder to name what you’re for.
To consider that which you’re against.

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But, we’re wired for contrast. Aren't we?
Hot or cold. Light or dark. This or that.

That’s how I taught my kids.
This is this because it’s not that.
But eventually, it stops working.

Hot isn’t bad. Cold isn’t either.
And darkness? It has things to teach.

I often go back to this Kierkegaard line in my head:

“You label me, so you can...

You'd be amazed how many emotionally immature coaches there are in sports.
(Or maybe you wouldn't.)

Half the work of working with young pros is helping them realize: It's not personal.

The psychological games? The mixed messages?
That's not about the athlete's skill or future.
It's about the coach's own insecurity.

That's when we talk about standards–and thermostats.

When everything around you feels unstable or reactive, you need something stable and chosen.

A standard is a promise you make to yoursel...

 I set this goal a few months ago.
Not just any goal–100 days of showing up. Shipping. Sharing.

Today is Day 70. Still a ways to go.
But here’s the truth: I reached my goal long ago.

Day 2 or 3, messages started rolling in–people telling me the work was helping them.
Day 8 and Day 14? I needed those days. They changed me.
By Day 24, a CEO friend told me his team was using my work in their weekly huddles.
Day 41 sparked an entire leadership retreat–of people I’ve never met.

It’s showing up in board...

I had coffee with my younger self this week.

He ordered a vanilla latte.
I ordered a coffee with light cream.

I asked him how things were going.
He lied and said everything was good.
Said he liked the work he was doing.
Said he could see himself doing it forever.

I told him a time would come soon,
When he’d be really honest with himself.
When he'd feel it: this season is over.
He’ll be scared to admit it. But he’ll know.

He asked, But what will I do?
How will any of this translate to something else?...

Your inner critic doesn't always shout.
Sometimes, it whispers.

Don't miss the block.
Don't forget your lines.
Don't fumble the sale.

It sounds helpful.
Even responsible.

But listen closer.

That voice isn't giving you a plan.
It's giving you a list of fears.

This is 'avoidance thinking.'
And it puts all your attention on the problem. Not the purpose.

There's another voice.
Quieter. Clearer.

Land the block.
Deliver the line.
Close with confidence.

This is 'approach thinking.'
And it replaces "don't...

A few years ago, I worked with a football coach who did this brilliant thing.

His position group had 14 guys. Only 4 starting spots.
One week before the first game, he began a ritual.

One by one, he called guys up to the whiteboard and asked each to write their starting four—from their point of view.

Then he’d ask the room: “Anyone want to make a change?”

Once there was consensus, he’d write his own starting four.
Sometimes it matched. Sometimes it didn’t.
And they did this every single week for the ...

We were taught:
Ready. Aim. Fire.

But that’s not how it works.
Not really.

You don’t know what ready means
Until you’ve shot the ball a few times.
Missed. Rebounded. Adjusted. 
Shot again.

That’s how you get ready.
That’s how you get clear.

So yeah—Stop rehearsing.
Shoot the ball.
Then adjust your aim.
And shoot again.

Eventually you’ll find ready. 

Fire. Aim. Ready.

It's the first question in any coaching conversation.

What do you want?

Not what's next. Not what's expected. Not what keeps the plates spinning.
What do you want?

It's a hard question when you've been head down for so long.
Another day becomes another week becomes another deadline becomes another fire to put out.

So many of us have gone numb. Our impulses aren't even ours anymore. They belong to the systems we serve.

So before anything else, the coach's task is simple:
Cut through the noise.
C...

Most problems aren’t that mysterious.

When someone’s stuck—complaining, venting, circling the same drain—it’s usually one of three things:

Skills. Standards. Beliefs.

They don’t know how to do the thing.
They haven’t decided what they’ll tolerate.
Or they’re telling themselves a story that makes the whole thing feel impossible.

That’s it.
(This is also the simple gap framework we use in nearly all of our coaching conversations.)

So the next time someone comes to you with a problem, don’t jus...

A mentor once told me:
We live in a society without elders.
Not without older people.
Without elders.

There’s a difference.

Age doesn’t make you wise.
And experience doesn’t make you worth following.

Wisdom comes from walking through fire–
And letting it refine you, not harden you.

We used to have more of these people.

It was the neighbor who’d been through hell and still showed up with kindness.
The mentor whose life did most of the talking.
The faith leader, coach, or teacher whose steadiness ma...

Minutiae gets a bad rep.

Yes...
You can get lost in it.
It can feel small, slow, even pointless.

Still...
Details compound.
Progress often lives in what feels too minor to matter.

Vision of the whole gets you started.
Vision of the details gets you there.

Reading won’t do it.
Another certification won’t do it.
Even clarity won’t do it.

Only action changes you.

You don’t think your way into a new identity.
You act your way there.

Because no amount of thinking creates
What one act of courage can.

There’s a strange phenomenon in sport:
Bronze medalists are often happier than silver medalists.

It’s called counterfactual thinking.

Bronze thinks, “At least I made the podium.”
Silver thinks, “I almost won.”

I once coached an Olympian who won gold… but in a relay.
"So it didn’t count", or so he told me. (Really?!)

Just last week, a current NFL player told me he feels embarrassed to talk about his job.
Why? He’s never taken a snap on Sundays.

Never mind that three franchises have paid him to w...

One of the most powerful conversations I’ve had was with a head coach a few days after an awful season.

He didn’t just lose games—he lost the fans.
The media piled on.
The stress around the program was palpable.

I remember walking into his office. We sat down.
Pleasantries, sure. But we both knew why I was there.
Not to talk about next steps.
Not off-season plans.

We talked about grief.

And let me tell you—grief is NOT a topic that comes up very often in head coach or senior leader offices.

I told him the...

Courage isn’t the absence of fear.
It’s the presence of vision.

This is one of my favorite cognitive reframes. I come back to it often—especially with clients who feel overwhelmed.

Because sometimes they’re buried in doubt.
The challenge feels too big.
The odds too narrow.
The leader above them seems impossible.
The NIL landscape is chaotic.
The timing, the market, the pressure—none of it ideal.

When these stories come up, I let them finish. I don’t rush to solve or redirect. I just listen.

You don’t pick a shirt based on who you want to become.
You pick it based on how you feel.

Cold? Grab the hoodie.
Confident? Maybe the black one.
Lazy Sunday? Hello, stretched-out tee with the mystery stain.

Shirts are for moods.
Identity is not.

The problem is, most people treat their commitments like shirts.
They wear them only when they feel like it.

But if you only write when you feel inspired...
Only lead when you feel confident...
Only train when you feel motivated...

Then your future is alw...

(this piece is written by our founder, Kevin Knox)

When I was a kid, I had a kind of superpower.

I’d have a dream—something big.
Play in the majors.
Fly a fighter jet.
Become a dad. A speaker. A leader.

Not tomorrow dreams.
Someday dreams.
The kind that require time, effort—
and growing into someone new.

Anyway, here's the superpower:
I’d find a quiet spot.
Sit real still.
Close my eyes tight.
Clench my fists.
And then I'd whisper to myself:

“From now to then.”

That phrase became a portal—
...

I can picture this all falling apart.
I can see the failure. Hear the critics. Feel the embarrassment.
Oh wow. Let’s not do it.

But I can also picture this working.
I can see the through line. The lives changed. Why it must be done.
Oh wow. We have to do this.

Funny, isn’t it?
It’s never the good outcomes that keep us up at night—only the bad ones.

The stories you tell shape the future you live in.
It's your choice which ones get airtime.

You don’t have to take it personal.
You don’t have to get stuck in your hurt feelings.
You don’t have to turn every slight into a story.

There was this running back we worked with a few years ago—buried on the depth chart. So far down, his own position coach once blanked on his name in a team meeting.

But, you know what? The kid didn’t flinch.
He didn’t pout. Didn’t make a scene.
He just kept showing up.
Got lost in his process.
Stacked daily gains.

And here’s the mindset:

“What you think a...

 You want to know a secret?

Well, it was never a secret.
But it will help you. And you’ve been looking for it in so many other places.

Here it is:

Action.

Go. Get started.
Stop waiting and start moving.

You don’t need another credential.
You don’t need another class, that book, or more research.

The clarity you seek is waiting for you in the work.

While everyone else waits for the perfect conditions, the perfect plan, the perfect moment. You can choose to start. Today.

In fact, the only ...

ONE STORY

 
(The Brooklyn Bridge. Image by Sam Amil. 2018.)

"Don’t Argue with Fear. Crush It with Proof."

THE PANIC
In May of 1883—just six days after the Brooklyn Bridge opened to the public—panic hit.

A rumor swept through the crowd: the bridge is collapsing. Chaos followed. A stampede. Twelve people were crushed to death.

Confidence in the bridge evaporated overnight. Commuters stayed away. Engineers issued statements. Experts gave reassurances. But no one believed them.

That’s when Ph...

We salute you.

You’re not crazy.
You’re not lost.
You’re just ahead.

You’re writing before the deal.
Training before the call.
Working while nobody’s watching.

People might not get it.
Not yet.
Too early. Too bold. Too much.

But that’s exactly why it matters.

You didn’t wait to be picked.
You chose yourself.
You don’t need a green light.
You’re already moving.

You’ve got vision with calluses.
Belief with receipts.
Ideas backed by motion.

The absolute moxie—
we salute you.

It’s lonely som...